girlboss | fixed vs growth

Hellooo!! It’s been ages since I write anything under the girlboss series. *blows dust 😆 I was listening to a couple of people online and reading something about overcoming rejection when I came across this idea. I find the concept of having a growth mindset in the way we see life rather than seeing it through a fixed mindset to be more appealing. Um btw, I don’t know what appropriate pictures to put on this post. So enjoy these pictures of my hike with Syafinaz in Melaka a few mornings ago.

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What’s fixed, and what’s growth? In a fixed mindset, people believe their qualities are fixed traits and therefore cannot be changed. It’s the I-was-born-this-way mentality. The way I put it, this trait lacks curiosity to venture to new grounds. Alternatively in a growth mindset, people have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. Hence, they never stop learning. Personally, I think curiosity and the willingness to better oneself are very attractive. 🥰

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This can be applied to any part of our life – career, love, family, friends. When I was fresh out of high school, I attended this interview for Yayasan Khazanah scholarship. As we proceeded to the final interviews, we had the chance to talk to this amazing lady. One thing she said that I hold on to until now is to shift our perspective in looking at failure. No matter the magnitude of the challenges, think of failures as learning experiences.

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It makes sense to me. When life puts us in unpleasant situation, try to think of the values and skills that you’re supposed to learn from it. I always joke that setbacks are like training camp but for real life. Ironically unless we actually learn and develop some new values from the experience, similar situation would happen again and again in our lives. Soo whenever life is being awful, ask ourselves, “What can I develop and learn from this?”

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The growth mentality trains us to be proactive. It gives us the power that we are in control of our lives. Of course you can be sad, but try your hardest not to wallow in the victim mentality too long because that place is really stagnant. This is not to say that it’s going to be easy too 😅 However, that’s the only way that you can leave the daunting situation and move on with life. ❤️

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