I had to reread my post on wall [part one] because..I’ve forgotten about what I ranted about. 😅 And when I reread the post, I can’t remember what I wanted to let you know on this post. Heh, I’m a grandma, guys.
A few days (weeks) after, just as I was eating my lunch, whoop-de-dooo! I remember what I was going to write about. 😆
As what was written in wall [part one], I understand that friends and family of those with anxiety can feel very helpless. It can get really frustrating. You want to help the ones you love and care deeply about to deal with their condition, but you don’t know how to help them or what you can say to snap them out of their struggle. And also, you’re afraid that you accidentally say things that make it worse for the person, when that’s the last thing you want!
Soo, I come out with some of the things that work for me. I can’t say it’ll work on everyone who has anxiety disorder, of course. It’s more of a trial and error kind of discovery.
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It’s important to realise that while anxiety disorder is not a physical condition, it’s also not something that can be cured through logic or reasoning. And like a disease, anxiety is something that needs special treatment. First of all, it’s pivotal that we realise that anxiety disorders are not like normal anxiety. It’s NOT your day-to-day anxiety. I had a hard time understanding this when I was first diagnosed. I beat myself up for not being strong enough to overcome what is considered to be a normal part of life. Now I realise that I lack serotonin in my system, and that causes all of the problems. 😊
Anxiety disorder is much more complex, much less controllable, and something that can force changes on you that make it harder to cure. Understand that anxiety is self-sustaining. It causes problems with your mind and body that make it more likely to experience further anxiety. For example, anxiety changes the brain chemistry in a way that creates negative thinking – negative thinking reduces the ability to think positively, which in turn makes it harder to control anxiety.
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As for me, the anxiety causes me to fear anxiety itself, which unfortunately, bleeds into other areas of my life. Fun fact about anxiety – when you’re nervous about one thing (e.g. exams), you can become nervous about other things as a result (e.g. crush doesn’t like me back). 😓 This is how anxiety works. So, when someone starts to fear their own anxiety and its symptoms, they may also develop new anxieties, or find more situations causing anxiety.
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As someone with friends that have anxiety or family members that are struggling with panic attacks, it’s important to forget everything you think you know about what anxiety is. This is because, no matter how much you think you know about it, if you’ve never had anxiety attacks, it’s extremely difficult to empathise with and understand, because it is sooo much different from the normal anxieties people without anxiety disorders experience in their everyday life.
If you start trying to “cure” your friend’s anxiety by assuming you understand what they’re dealing with, boy you’re going to struggle, and you may actually upset your friend more. I learn this one first-hand. 😅
Wow. I think this post is long enough. I’ll do a part three.